2022.01.25 19:58 bamitssophia My (23F) boyfriend (23M) asked for space and I feel like he’s actually trying to break up with me instead
we’ve been dating for over two years now. we first got together when he was getting out of the army. he is an afghanistan vet. Infantry in the army. Upbringing included an abusive dad and a divorce that he didn’t handle well. my upbringing included losing my dad when i was 6 and an immigrant mom who didn’t believe that depression exists lol.
Long story short, everything went super fine for a long time. first major fight we had was last winter. He started packing up his schedule with just his friends and i got very taken back by this. we would spend every weekend together around this time so i was a little concerned that it came out of nowhere. one thing led to another and he got very involved w the boys and they were doing psychedelics every weekend and that’s all he wanted to do. he got very upset with me for prying and wondering if everything was truly okay. big argument ensued. he told me drugs will always come before me and tried to break up with me three times in a week. we later made up and he told me he was actually struggling with suicidal thoughts and figured it would be best to not “leave a girlfriend behind” if he were successful.
he started seeing a therapist but the VA isn’t good with this stuff at all and he’s barely made progress. sure he talks about the army and PTSD, but he refuses to try his meds and he always tells them “my childhood was good” when it really wasn’t. his mom and i both agree that his anger issues and overall angry life outlook stems from his dad.
just recently, he’s been starting to really push me away again in favor of his friends. i pushed back because this isn’t like him and i truly was worried something deeper was happening. he talked to me at one point and said he needed a break from me and said he “does everything i ask for but it’s still not enough.” this was in reference to the fact that when he’s out, i just ask he keep me updated on where he is because all of his friends are great at getting shitfaced so i like to make myself available to pick them up god forbid anything happens.
but he started triggering my abandonment issues when he would leave abruptly for the boys so yes, he still kept me posted but i was angry and hurt for a whole weekend that he did that to me consistently.
next thing i know hes telling me he doesn’t know what the outlook is but i need to focus on myself and he does the same. but by the end of the conversation he’s telling me, he loves me. he doesn’t want to break up with me. he just needs time.
i want to believe him. we went days without talking and if we did, it was a small text here and there like “whatcha doin”
yesterday he texted me and thanked me for being patient. he said he just knows something isn’t right and something is making him so angry at the world but clarified that it isn’t me.
this text made me feel a little better.
today i asked to talk. i called him. he answered and asked what’s up. i just wanted some reassurance and asked if we were okay and he said yes and i asked how long we’re thinking this will go on for (it’s been about almost a week) and he said “this sounds shitty but i haven’t thought about the relationship once. im just living in the moment with my friends. you’re asking too many questions and i can’t answer them right now” he said he doesn’t hate me. he still said he loves and cares about me.
im not sure what to do from here. we used to spend like every other day together and now he’s one town over and acts like a stranger and it really hurts. is there any advice for what i should do? do you think it sounds like he’s going through something? or is he just distancing himself from me so it’ll be easier to break up with me?
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2022.01.25 19:58 countingonhearts Accepted a job offer, am I making the right choice?
I’ve recently accepted a job offer as a web developer, I’m currently a web developer. I’m excited by it, but also questioning my choice. I had my notice into my current employer tomorrow, and I’m very anxious.
Why I applied? I applied for the job early last year, I wasn’t successful, I unofficially applied (via the director on social media) before Christmas, had interviews and was successful. I applied for their type of work. It’s a Laravel web developer role, with a team that has a passionate in the technology and work. I applied because I’m sick of my current project management at my job, everything is always last minute, even though we (the bosses) set the event dates, launch dates, marketing dates. We often still pushing changes and functionality minutes before our first marketing goes out for a website. Out of my current team of devs (me, 2 others) I’m the only one passionate in Laravel and our tech stack, I’m constantly pushing to improve our tech, our workflow, keeping up to date on news and improving myself. The other 2 are more, “eh, PHP”
My current employer has been amazing over the last year, by granting WFH privileges for just me, granting spontaneous sick days, holidays, and being flexible, especially as I welcomed my son into the world last year. My only downside to the job is the passion in the team, and unnecessary stressful deadlines.
As I said above, I’m excited by the new job because of the team and tech, and I don’t hate my current job just frustrated with the current setup.
How can I work out what is best for me?
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