How big is this red flag in a new partner?

2022.01.27 03:24 No-Entertainment9067 How big is this red flag in a new partner?

I (27F) recently went no contact with my whole abusive, narcissistic family. I made a deliberate choice to make big changes in my life. I cut off all my old bully friends. I moved, I've been focusing on myself, my health and my healing, I've been making new (kind) friends, and now I am in a new relationship.
My new partner (28M) checks a lot of boxes for me. It's only been a couple months, but we got serious pretty quickly, because we both know what we want and are very picky, and sort of had love at first sight. But for me, especially with my past, I'm still pretty guarded.
We've talked about my past (emotional abuse & neglect from my parents), and he's been very supportive of my healing & being no contact with them. He said it's just like his mom's situation. He said her parents were really mean to her. He said his mom is the sweetest person ever, and his immediate family is all love, and he made it sound like with old age, the grandparents have cooled off a lot. It's important for me to be in a relationship with someone who has a happy, loving family, or at the very least, no narcissistic drama. This tentatively seemed to be what I was looking for, as long as boundaries were set with the grandparents.
Anyway. As we've been dating, I found out he sees these grandparents at least once a week. Today we were supposed to go on a date, but he rescheduled because the grandparents were going to see him and his parents last minute, and he said had to be there. I asked him questions about this, and he said he doesn't like seeing them, because there's a lot of fighting and yelling, and he also made a lot of excuses for their behavior. He said he could never not see them, because they're elders.
This is really alarming to me for many reasons.

  1. He says he "has" to see them, choosing not to set boundaries and decide for himself what he wants to do.
  2. He makes excuses for their behavior. He excuses his grandparents for being "hateful" because of their past trauma, and he excuses his parents staying in contact with them saying it's "for the family"
  3. He chose them over me. Obviously we just started dating so maybe it would be high maintenance of me to want him to keep the date (pushing it back a day makes no difference to me), but I'm envisioning this being a huge issue if we were to ever get married down the line.
  4. It sounds like the grandparents have not cooled off with age, and realistically never will
  5. This all makes me wonder what other potentially abusive dynamics might be at play within his family, that they might all be in denial about.
  6. I don't really want kids, but I know he does, and if I ever change my mind and have kids, I won't allow these grandparents to see them. I have traumatic memories from 2 years old of my abusive great grandma & I still get flashbacks. I'm sure this would cause a huge rift in his family, but who knows if we'd even make it to that point, if I'd even want kids, and if his grandparents would even still be alive.
This is really triggering for me. I don't want to marry into a family like that. I don't ever want to meet his grandparents, and I don't like him bailing on me when they make last minute plans. The thing is, I'm in my 20s and I've never been in a serious relationship. I always run away. And, my parents definitely didn't model good relationships for me. So I'm sort of feeling everything out as I go. Plus, he has a lot of amazing qualities that I've really struggled to find in a partner.
Do I bail before things get more serious? Or do I tell him that, even though it's early, I won't get too serious because of the reasons I listed above? Or, do I just let him do his thing, and find a way to be unbothered about all this?
Have you been in this situation with a partner? What did you do, and how did it go? What are some examples of boundaries I should set?
TLDR: I finally cut off my emotionally abusive parents and moved on with my life. But now I have a new partner who's grandparents display the same traits. He sees them all the time and doesn't set boundaries with them. Do I just bail now? Or try talking to him? Or just enjoy the relationship and let him deal with his own issues?
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