Told my boyfriend (24m) that I love him, and he didn't say it back to me (22f). Need outside perspective

2021.12.03 13:10 ceejdrew Told my boyfriend (24m) that I love him, and he didn't say it back to me (22f). Need outside perspective

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. Before this, I was in a 4 year relationship that was going no where, that had a lot of unhealthy traits I was previously oblivious to. I realized I would be more happy alone than I was with that guy. I spent 6 months living up the single life, going on dates, having casual sex, and finding myself.
Whenever I'd meet someone new, I'd be sure to explain the fact that I was not looking for anything serious. When I met my current boyfriend, I decided not to say that. I had a little voice in my head that said "hey. This guy is everything you've been learning that you want in a partner. Just see how it goes." So I did. He and I have had a connection like I've never experienced.
He's extremely in touch with his emotions, thoughtful, physically and verbally affectionate... I have felt seen and appreciated in a whole new way. We're in very complimentary fields (he's an actor and I do design for theatre), I absolutely love hearing him monologue to me about what's going on in his life or something interesting to him, and he seems very engaged when I do the same. We never run out of things to talk about, and we smile so much that its sometimes physically painful. Even the minor issues that have come up have been discussed maturely, quietly listening to each other's sides, and mutually looking for an outcome that makes both of us feel heard and appreciated.
We have amazing sex. He's the only guy who's made me cum on his own, and recently I've even had a G spot orgasm which I haven't ever had before (even alone). Skill probably plays a part, but I think the major factor is being able to relax around him and feel 100% comfortable.
We had a conversation when we were first going on dates about how silly it is when people say I love you right away. We both kinda agreed that infatuation comes first, but love came with actually being with a person for a while and knowing them. I had had two guys over the previous 6 mo that had said I love you after about a month of knowing each other (despite not being in a relationship, just casually seeing each other). I felt that that was too soon, especially when I had been clear prior that I wasn't looking for a full relationship. He had mentioned he had one serious GF before, relationship lasted about 6 mo, and she had said I love you around 2 or 3 months. I don't know if he ever said it back.
At this point, I feel like I know him. Our lunch schedules line up so we usually grab food two or so days a week, and we both have Thursday off so that's our day to hang out or go do something. We spend the night about twice a week too. He is constantly touching me when we're together, fingers grazing my arm, forehead kisses, sometimes I catch him watching me and smiling when I'm making us coffee or otherwise preoccupied with something else. He makes a conscious effort to include me when we're with his friends, and if the conversation has other people talking for a bit, he looks at me, the smile reaches his eyes, and he puts his hand on the small of my back. Like hey, I see you. Point is, I feel loved. And have genuinely thought for a while about whether I was still just feeling infatuation or if I actually love this person. I believe I do. It's earlier than the abstract timeline I gave to myself but it'd feel silly to deny what I feel just because it didn't line up to what I had expected.
He has said how he feels as though we have known each other much longer, and that our relationship is easy in a good way. That we work. He said he can see how lack of communication is causing problems in some of his friends relationships, and he sees how we have handled some of the same conversations much differently and that he's happy we're healthy together and so in tune.
This brings us to a few days ago. I have been struggling to not just say it when I feel the overwhelming urge to. Like it's bubbling over. I had my heart pounding in my throat I was so nervous because I finally decided to say it. He could tell, said "what's up?" I said it and buhhhbuhhhbunnn..... He said that's great. I took a beat and said it's okay if you don't feel the same way. We were lying down and so we kinda hugged for a while and he kissed my forehead. After a little bit of time he said he really likes me and but hesitates to use that word so soon. I had told myself that it was going to be okay if he didn't say it back because I knew he felt the same in some way shape or form even if he didn't have words for it yet. But that was a lie apparently, because I feel like shit and now I'm afraid if I misread the subtext of all of the stuff above. I don't want to get hurt. I don't want it to be one-sided.
I was a little more reserved the following day that we spent together, and I think he noticed. Usually I match his energy 1 to 1, and am just as physically affectionate as he is, but I was a bit lower energy and it felt more like putting on a face. I felt like I needed to get away to think clearly but I had spent the night and we had dinner reservations so I spent a long time freaking out internally and wanting to cry but not being able to. He definitely upped his "I care about you" and random kisses and cuddling, maybe to try and show me he still cares, but it's hard to get that little voice out of my head saying "not as much as you". I am afraid that maybe I'm putting too much of myself on the line. I'm afraid what if he never tells me he loves me? I definitely don't want to hear it if it's not true. But I just... I had this picture in my head of him saying it back and it being perfect because I felt so sure he felt the same. Now I just feel embarrassed and silly.
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2021.12.03 13:10 Alarmingclock10 First time Traveling Alone from Asia - Down to Meet Up? (Introvert problems haha)

I am a 23M from Overseas, I am sort of an introvert and I don’t know anyone in Mexico City, but I’d love to treat someone to coffee or something and just talk. I am on vacation this week and will be arriving soon, I’d like to maybe learn about your culture and just talk talk about life. I have been studying Spanish on my free time to prepare for my trip. Anyways, if this is weird sorry about that. It’s just a special trip for me since I barely had a vacation/holiday in the past 3 years (constantly working), and I think as a result of that I haven’t been traveling.
Down to do anything. So hit me up! I will be in Roma Norte (did extensive research and it looks like Zocalo wasn’t the best place to stay so I’m in Roma Norte).
I speak 2 languages (English is not my native language but I’m 100% fluent), but I guess we can talk about culture etc.
Well, this is a bit awkward. Never made a post like this.
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2021.12.03 13:10 avocadorist Single and pregnant, aunt only has 1 bedroom place which we shared, no family support...... What help is available to me

I'm working atm but my mind is in a rut rn
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2021.12.03 13:10 edditbot (+3502) Tom Crabtree Tells Chris Kluwe Why The Packers Tipped One of His Punts

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2021.12.03 13:10 Ok-Pause2835 Which fictional character do you think is secretly an internet troll?

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2021.12.03 13:10 Program_Black Patches

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I’m based in the UK and I’m looking for a patch maker, not looking to spend tonnes.
Does anyone have any recommendations on a decent supplier?
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2021.12.03 13:10 YaBoiSoyBoy [LF] Rudy, Erik, Shep, Nan [FT] Bells, NMT

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2021.12.03 13:10 Srgt_PEANUT To those Concerned about the Expertise update

From the wording and the way they make it sound is that your gear will not magically transform into lower level gear. If you have a 600GS weapon but your WM is only 540 then the weapon STAYS at 600GS but has the stats of a 540. I personally would assume from the way they said it is that as your "expertise" increases, so does the effective GS of your equipped items so long as they are of a higher GS than your expertise. They even said it would be a temporary decrease.
Worst case scenario is that it DOES permanently decrease your items GS to whatever your WM is. Best advice I can give is before it happens, take off all of your precious high level gear to save it for later. The changes of lowering your gear is only EQUIPPED gear, not ones in your inventory. That is only speculation based off the info we have but it's a safe bet to make. This would mean all your hard work isn't completely wasted but you will still have to grind your expertise up.
Regardless of the changes, they said sometime in 2022 is when this will happen. For those that are going to stay, that means we have at least a few months until these changes take place. Which means we have a few months to grind out our watermark so that these changes don't affect us, yes it sucks but it's something to consider if you're going to stick around.
I've seen a post or 2 (sorry I don't have links) about how this update will reset your Watermarks back to 500. I HIGHLY doubt this will be the case, this rumor comes from a screenshot of a support chat where CS stated something that insinuated this. CS has proven to be incredibly incompetent and unreliable as well as not having much tie to AGS or the game at all. I think it would be safe to dismiss this rumor and not stress over it.
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2021.12.03 13:10 ITConsultingIB HigherEd and GP?

Hello all, anyone using Dynamics GP/Great Plains in higher education? We have a longstanding implementation of GP and we find it very difficult to get integration support. Any vendors specializing in GP for Higher Ed?
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2021.12.03 13:10 Roxnam Searching for a speech that was VERY popular but has completely dissapeared,except a small 30 second clip.

Now, the video/speech in itself isnt very mysterious, but the whole not being able to find a video that went viral is. I cant find another explanation then media censorship.
I believed i have found the video it is originated from, but its deleted, and internet archives hasnt archived it.
Can you help me? (small clip)
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2021.12.03 13:10 foofighterforgot Mujer reclama por factura de UTE de $ 96.000: “Tengo 8 criaturas, sin luz no puedo estar”

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2021.12.03 13:10 beatNick_ [Advice] Inner Tyrant

Watches dozens of Jordan Peterson YouTube videos, listens to over half of his podcast, listens to him on Joe Rogan, reads 12 Rules For Life, reads Beyond Good And Evil several times, and reads several James Allen books.
Still can’t take action.
David Goggins: All that psychology and philosophy, but you STILL can’t get after it! That shit doesn’t tame the inner bitch DOES IT!?
Me: Crying. No it doesn’t…
David Goggins: OH HELL NO! It is not your time of the month! REAL MEN don’t let their pussies drip! You better wipe that shit off!
Me: Wipes drips. So what do I do?
David Goggins: I’ll fucking tell you what to DO! First off, fuck all that fancy critical thinking shit! And FUCK INFINITE DESCENT too! There’s only one proof in this world motherfucker! Proving that you can DO IT! You better tell that inner tyrant to whoop your inner bitch into place, because your inner bitch doesn’t matter and guess what motherfucker, neither do YOU! THAT’S RIGHT, until you realize YOU are just a DREAM, your LIFE will be a NIGHTMARE! So you don’t need a reason to get after it, your inner tyrant IS the reason motherfucker! What do you DO!? IT MOTHERFUCKER, IT!
Me: But what if I fail?
David Goggins: That’s LIFE motherfucker! And you want to know who raised life!? FAILURE! And SHE was a REAL WOMAN! Meanwhile COMFORT HE ran off! That’s why WE have an INNER BITCH! You only get one fucking friend in this world! And that’s SCRATCH! So if you haven’t gotten STARTED yet, MAYBE YOU SHOULD!
Me: How do I keep going?
David Goggins: DON’T QUIT MOTHERFUCKER! You want GROWTH!? You need CONDITIONS! You want to know who raised ALL of them!? SUFFERING! That motherfucker is the OLDEST friend of knowledge! So SUFFERING is the only thing YOU need to STUDY! You want to know why it’s spelt WEEK!? So YOU don’t get this shit CONFUSED! You’re meant to WORK! EVERY SINGLE ONE! But the inner bitch LOVES the 7th, she’s so greedy she WANTS the 6th, you better get your inner tyrant to teach her about NIHILISM, she gets NOTHING!
Me: But what if I do stop?
David Goggins: THEN YOUR INNER BITCH WON! You gonna give up on the WAR TOO!? You want to know where Hell is!? On EARTH motherfucker! God PUT it here to ATTRACT the INNER BITCH because it’s the only place SUITABLE for her EGO! You want to JOIN her!? You want to know where Heaven is!? STAYING OUT OF HELL! You want to know what that’s gonna take!? ENDURANCE! Guess who raised that motherfucker!? PAIN! God created GOOD AND EVIL and HE ain’t getting of EITHER! I’ll let you in on a little secret, these two motherfuckers are BATTLE BUDDIES! Only THEY know how to motivate another! Do I need to FUCKING spell it out!? PAIN motivates ENDURANCE! SUFFERING motivates all the CONDITIONS for GROWTH! FAILURE motivates LIFE! TRUST your motherfucking inner tyrant! Stay the FUCK away from that inner bitch! Don’t give a FUCK about who you THINK you are you FICTIONAL FUCK! And STOP looking for reasons, you know who LOVES reasons!? THE INNER BITCH! FUCK THAT! She’s tryna trick you into INFINITE DESCENT! That’s a waste of TIME motherfucker! Every START is IRRATIONAL, that’s how SCRATCH rolls motherfucker! STOP ACTING like he ain’t your ONLY FRIEND! And FUCK THE CONSEQUENCES TOO! The EFFECT of your ACTION is the CAUSE!? Well guess what, CAUSA SUI AIN’T REAL MOTHERFUCKER! That’s the inner bitch’s LAST TRICK to make you QUESTION ACTION when IT doesn’t go YOUR way! You already forget about SCRATCH!? He’s ALL you GOT motherfucker! A REAL MAN isn’t PAMPERED by REASON and CONSEQUENCE! HE GETS AFTER IT! HE DOESN’T LET HIS INNER BITCH USE HER FAVORITE TRICKS! There is no FREE and UNFREE in the world motherfucker! ITS STRONG AND WEAK, THAT’S IT! Which FUCKING ONE are you!? You want STRENGTH!? THEN GET THE FUCK AFTER IT! Whatever the FUCK IT IS! PAIN, SUFFERING, AND FAILURE ARE HERE TO STAY MOTHERFUCKER! WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU!? CUDDLING WITH YOUR INNER BITCH!? WAITING TO GET BROKEN!? DISGUSTING! Your INNER TYRANT is your ONLY way through LIFE and SCRATCH is your ONLY HELP! There’s ONLY ONE SIN in this world, and that’s being someone else’s OUTER BITCH! THAT’S THE INNER BITCH’S END GAME! DOES THAT SOUND GOOD TO YOU!? GUESS WHAT THAT MOTIVATES!? EVIL MOTHERFUCKER! FUCK THAT! NOW GET THE FUCK AFTER IT! - GOGGINS OUT!! Exceeding God’s expectations.
“I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things.” - Isaiah 45:7
“To our strongest drive, the tyrant in us, not only our reason bows but also our conscience.” - Nietzsche
“When we are awake we also do what we do in our dreams: we invent and make up the person with whom we associate—and immediately forget it.” - Nietzsche
“There is no ‘being’ behind doing, effecting, becoming; ‘the doer’ is merely a fiction added to the deed-the deed is everything.” - Nietzsche
“Main thought! The individual himself is a fallacy. Everything which happens in us is in itself something else which we do not know. ‘The individual’ is merely a sum of conscious feelings and judgments and misconceptions, a belief, a piece of the true life system or many pieces thought together and spun together, a ‘unity’, that doesn’t hold together. We are buds on a single tree—what do we know about what can become of us from the interests of the tree! But we have a consciousness as though we would and should be everything, a phantasy of ‘I’ and all ‘not I.’ Stop feeling oneself as this phantastic ego! Learn gradually to discard the supposed individual! Discover the fallacies of the ego! Recognize egoism as fallacy! The opposite is not to be understood as altruism! This would be love of other supposed individuals! No! Get beyond ‘myself’ and ‘yourself’! Experience cosmically!” - Nietzsche
“Can you prove this thing with other proven things? - Which themselves would require other proven things, which … But this is infinite descent. You cannot begin to prove anything until you settle for believing in at least one unproven thing.
Pick your preferred term for the unproven: belief, assumption, faith, axiom, etc.
So proof needs an irrational starting point.” - Nick
“The causa sui is the best self-contradiction that has been conceived so far, it is a sort of rape and perversion of logic; but the extravagant pride of man has managed to entangle itself profoundly and frightfully with just this nonsense. The desire for ‘freedom of the will’ in the superlative metaphysical sense, which still holds sway, unfortunately, in the minds of the half-educated; the desire to bear the entire and ultimate responsibility for one’s actions oneself, and to absolve God, the world, ancestors, chance, and society involves nothing less than to be precisely this causa sui and, with more than Münchhausen’s audacity, to pull oneself up into existence by the hair, out of the swamps of nothingness. Suppose someone were thus to see through the boorish simplicity of this celebrated concept of ‘free will’ and put it out of his head altogether, I beg of him to carry his ‘enlightenment’ a step further, and also put out of his head the contrary of this monstrous conception of ‘free will’: I mean ‘unfree will,’ which amounts to a misuse of cause and effect. One should not wrongly reify ‘cause’ and ‘effect,’ as the natural scientists do (and whoever, like them, now ‘naturalizes’ in his thinking), according to the prevailing mechanical doltishness which makes the cause press and push until it ‘effects’ its end; one should use ‘cause’ and ‘effect’ only as pure concepts, that is to say, as conventional fictions for the purpose of designation and communication—not for explanation. In the ‘in-itself’ there is nothing of ‘causal connections,’ of ‘necessity,’ or of ‘psychological non-freedom’; there the effect does not follow the cause, there is no rule of ‘law.’ It is we alone who have devised cause, sequence, for-each-other, relativity, constraint, number, law, freedom, motive, and purpose; and when we project and mix this symbol world into things as if it existed ‘in itself,’ we act once more as we have always acted—mythologically. The ‘unfree will’ is mythology; in real life it is only a matter of strong and weak wills.
It is almost always a symptom of what is lacking in himself when a thinker senses in every ‘causal connection’ and ‘psychological necessity’ something of constraint, need, compulsion to obey, pressure, and unfreedom; it is suspicious to have such feelings—the person betrays himself. And in general, if I have observed correctly, the ‘unfreedom of the will’ is regarded as a problem from two entirely opposite standpoints, but always in a profoundly personal manner: some will not give up their ‘responsibility,’ their belief in themselves, the personal right to their merits at any price (the vain races belong to this class). Others, on the contrary, do not wish to be answerable for anything, or blamed for anything, and owing to an inward self-contempt, seek to lay the blame for themselves somewhere else. The latter, when they write books, are in the habit today of taking the side of criminals; a sort of socialist pity is their most attractive disguise. And as a matter of fact, the fatalism of the weak-willed embellishes itself surprisingly when it can pose as ‘la religion de la souffrance humaine’ - ‘The religion of human suffering’; that is its “good taste.’” - Nietzsche
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2021.12.03 13:10 fdrferny33 I got margin called yesterday, asking to pay either deposit $7700 or close positions on $bbig. I closed other positions.

$BBIG all in 💎🤲. Rumor has it that hedgies trying to shake people off 1 last try before this blows up.
This December sale is killing me as well because I bought more !
I have no doubt in my conviction in the stock, hopefully others can see that we will rise soon enough, doesn’t cost nothing to Hodl.
I am really proud of all of you.
Go BBIG or go home. 💎🤲
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