Co-workers don’t like my appearance and I was pulled into HR to discuss it

2021.12.06 01:59 throwawayugly5 Co-workers don’t like my appearance and I was pulled into HR to discuss it

Using a throwaway since this is a on going issue. I got pulled for a “random” drug test. I say “random” because I didn’t see anyone else get pulled from their work. This wasn't done on break or lunch but I do the test and am told to go to HR. I don’t do drugs so I’m not worried at all. This job has no direct customer interaction so I don’t need to plaster a smile on my face and it’s not a job like sephora or ulta where it’s required to be “done up”. There is a business casual dress code.
I sat down and was told that there have been some reports against me, my sketchy behavior, and my appearance by my coworkers. I look “exhausted, tired, sullen looking” which is a nice way of putting that I don’t wear makeup and every other co worker does, so I should too. I read the dress code and nowhere does it say I need makeup or tighter clothing.
At every job I've ever worked at, I've always kept my personal and professional life separate. Leave whatever personal issues/drama at the door. I’m not there to make friends nor do I feel like I need to explain anything about what I’m dealing with in my personal life. I shouldn't have to tell them why I wear the same two shirts because it’s all I have. I shouldn't have to say I walk two hours to and from work and that's why I'm out of breath when I get to work.
Finally she tells me there are reports for sketchy behavior because everyday at lunch I “disappear” and no one knows where I go. This is off the clock time. We aren’t allowed to loiter outside on our breaks unless we stand in the smokers area or we can go to our cars and leave. I don’t smoke and I don't have a car. I also haven't been lucky enough to bring or buy lunch so sitting in a busy lunchroom for an hour smelling all the food when I've been surviving on ramen noodles every two days is hell. So I go to the bathroom, lean my head on the tank of the toilet and I nap. Again, not on company time and I don’t see why I would need to tell everyone.
After she told me all this I just started crying and I’m so embarrassed that I did. I pointed out that I’m absolutely crushing my work performance percentages and questioned how any of this was relevant. Why was I being pulled from my work and forced to defend myself about what I’m doing off the clock? She then strongly recommends I get clothing that fits and put on a little coverup to look “alive”. I was also encouraged to be more friendly with the team despite them showing zero initiative and ignore me. I would love to get all pretty to appease my coworkers! I would love to chat with them eating overpriced pre packaged caesar salads in the lunchroom! I would love clothing that fits a bit better and more than two shirts but are they going to provide funds for me? NO.
I don't want to “ruffle HR feathers” but I can’t believe this is happening. I need this job. I’m really good at it. I had a stillbirth two months ago and it allows me to sit for my entire shift and the pay is decent enough that I can survive until I heal enough to get a second job. Do I just not return to work and find a new job? I’m rebuilding from being homeless and this job pays well. I’m already running on low energy from not eating normally/walking everywhere. I’ve been just doing the best I can because that's what adults do when there is no magic money tree or help.
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2021.12.06 01:59 BaselessDegenerate Spoilers: Workshop Currency Farm

Hey all,
Not sure if this has been discussed before but I think I have found a pretty good yellow currency farm. The Strange Harvest: Bio-Research mission has you move to 3 locations on the map to interact with a plant at each location.
Once interacted with, you move to the next plant. Do this 3 times and mission is completed and you can return to orbit netting you 100 credits.
I can complete this solo in about 10 minutes so netting about 600/c an hour.
Anyone else know of any good credit farms?

Hope this helps some people
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I’m a married dad of two young kiddos. I love reading, spending time with my family, and have way too many hobbies for whats good for my sleep.
In my (very little) free time I like to engaged in one of my hobbies/interests:

Hobbies/interests that have dropped off due to the pandemic shitting in everyone’s soul and kids being wonderful but all time consuming are: scuba diving, long distance hiking/back woods camping, travel, and outdoor sports.
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