Popular but not born that way: how'd you become the guy with whom everbody wants to hang out.

2021.10.21 12:28 jdaniel1371 Popular but not born that way: how'd you become the guy with whom everbody wants to hang out.

So many lonely young people around here, and damn, so much therapy! I never heard of a therapist when I was young, the closest thing I can remember to a therapist were school and college counsellors, mostly for career help and the occasional "oopsie" pregnancy.
I'm popular, my doors always open, friends always coming and going. That said, I'm not a natural and it wasn't always that way. I simply observed people who were naturally charismatic and have even asked them "how they do it." Surprising overall answer: it takes *work* and planning, and still no guarantees. They laugh when I ask, "where's the shining armor?"
When I was drowning in loneliness and tears -- the therapist and Xanax yet to be invented, thank God -- I learned a few recipes and studied up on wine and whiskey, (very popular right now, BTW). I invited a few acquaintances over, at one point they invited their friends, and the rest is history. Every friend was once a stranger. I also talk to everybody regardless of "hotness". I know my credit limit.
If you have the space for it, arrange your place for entertaining. I turned a bedroom into a "rumpus" room; I bought a comfortable used couch, and pub table, wide screen, string lights and even a vintage video game from the 80s. It's all been a hit.
Scout out some good restaurants and the best times to go, (adequate parking, when they aren't inundated), try out some beaches, rivers and when you find a few magical places, only then do you tell a hook up or friend, "hey, I know this really cool restaurant or swimming hole, etc."
Travel alone, it's a great way to meet others who travel alone.
Learn some jokes. My standbys: "At my age, FWB means "friends with backaches." or I'm so old, even the adbots ghost me." This guy introduced himself as "Corbin" I replied, "hi, my name is Hasbin." Get it? : ) People love witty puns and the like.
People love to laugh, and they love good stories. A sense of humor comes from being observant and curious about the world around you. It is a conundrum though: compelling stories are shaken out of life experiences, and experience comes with age.
People love to talk about themselves. Draw them out by showing interest and empathy about what they say! Elaborate on their thoughts and observations; prove to them that they're interesting.
All of the above can be learned, you don't have to be born with charisma.
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Averaged 19 with a strike rate of 36 until end of 1994 and then averaged 28 with a strike rate of 51 from beginning of 1995 till end of his career.
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